Commitment

woah commitment slow your roll.  I used to be the most committed person in the whole world I think.  I was so afraid to disappoint that I showed up everywhere early and I never backed out of anything I said yes to.  It’s not only how I was raised, but I was also so afraid to disappoint that it was almost a crippling fear to me.

Well, then I went through real life. (ps, an orange tractor just drove past my house.. which is in town.. what?!)  I went through the disappointment of people missing things they said they would show up to, missed going to things because rides backed out, and just plain got told no about things that meant a lot to me.  I also had kids, which basically meant I had to be late to everything, always. I slowly stopped committing in my life, backing out last minute or just plain told people no as well.  I eventually did nothing, so of course this is something that God has been working with me lately.

I say yes. I go to things that I can go to, and if I know I can’t I tell them the truth.  I’m not perfect and I never ever ever ever EVER will be, but i’m getting better at opening my heart and my commitments to others.

here are some great verses from this week:

Tithe is such a touchy subject I think and I don’t even understand why.. I think you can look up christians and non-christians alike and they will all tell you that when you give, you receive so much more.  This is Paul talking to the church about how they should not going be giving, but they should take the money out at the first of the week every week instead of right before he comes.  One, this give God the first of your money which I think is important spiritually because you showing God that He is first in your life.  Two, this makes sure you don’t lose or spend that money as time goes on, which has happened to me a lot and then i’m struggling hardcore to make up for that money again.  I don’t know if it is mediatory or not to give tithe.. I think that will be something I definitely study in the future, but I can tell you that my family has personally reaped the rewards of tithing.  We are not late on bills, there has never been a bill we can’t pay and when we are struggling something always happens to get us back on track.  That is an awesome testament to the world we live in, because a lot of people are struggling out there.  SO, give, and do it first before anything else.. see what happens. 🙂

I think this is a beautiful verse to tell us how much we mean to God.  He is who enables us, He fills us with the Holy Spirit, He identifies us as His own, He guarantees everything He has promised us.  SO many awesome things God gives us.

Someone had did something bad in the church that Paul was writing to at the time and it must have been pretty bad because he basically got punished, but he repented, he knew that what he did was wrong so Paul is telling them to forgive and comfort him before he basically leaves.  People do bad things, and there definitely needs to be consequences for the those things, but once they have asked for forgiveness we need to forgive them and love them and comfort them, strengthen them, counseling, anything that will help and encourage that person.  That way they won’t leave.  They will see the love of Jesus..  We need to remember this part.

Preachers in this time where giving themselves all the credit for the good things that were happening and Paul told the church that basically the way you know that they are followers in Jesus is when they only give God the credit, because without Him we are inadequate. We need to remember we need Jesus always, we can NOT do this life on our own.

life is not easy, but this verse alone is a huge encouragement to how great God is! We are not crushed, we are not driven to despair, we are never abandoned by God and we are not destroyed.  sometimes we forget that God can take care of us when the world is gross, hateful, dark pit.  He can help you get through that depression, anxiety, loss, pain, anything.

(pictures are from bible.com)

love you all! have a great week!

Being De-vot[e]d

About 7-8 years ago I was offered this awesome opportunity to be a children’s pastor.  At that time I had just left college and while in college I had been apart of this HUGE children’s ministry that had probably hundreds of kids apart of it.  I had never had to plan a lesson, deal with kids one on one in a ‘classroom’ / ‘church’ setting, or do an event or class by myself.  I was so in love with the big production that I had seen that I had in my head that is was children’s ministry was.  Well, I was very wrong. not only did I only ever have 1-2 students maybe every other week, but I also had a very hard time coming up with lessons for us and getting the kids interest, or even me interested for that matter.  It ended up being something that I dreaded and I was really disappointed because I had set myself up for that to be what I did for the rest of my life.  Eventually they took the funds away to do children’s church and we went back to the church we originally were at.  That was such a big blow for me.  I was hurt by the pastors, I was disappointed in myself and I had some very hard personal things happening in my family at the same time.  I stopped doing ‘ministry’ type things after that because I didn’t want to go through the disappointment of letting myself down or anyone else in the path.  I sang a little, got a job a christian daycare of a bit, but for the most part I just told everyone I was trying to strengthen my relationship with God, when in all reality I was hiding from being hurt again.  We moved from Missouri to Wisconsin and that’s when I realized I had to work to keep my relationship with God going let alone anything else.  In the ‘bible belt’ where everyone went to church and everyone talked about God, I could just float along… but in Wisconsin where very little people talk about God in every day conversation and no one is expecting you to go to church on a sunday it became a huge struggle to stay committed.  I am now working at my relationship with Jesus, purposely making it to church every sunday, intentionally getting into the word of God and it’s opening doors to things I love.  I can now say I’m really working on my relationship with Him and I am getting more involved because I’m excited to and I’m ready for the next step in my life!!

so enough about me.

here are some verses from this week that touched my heart strings.

1 Corinthians 11:11

But among the Lord’s people, women are not independent of men, and men are not independent of women.

We as women always say ‘anything you can do, I can do better’ but it’s not a competition.. we need to work side by side to be strong because we both bring special abilities to the table to make things work!

1 Corinthians 12:26

If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad.

Paul is talking to the church body here and how we should be helping each other and strengthening each other.  If we allow our ‘brothers’ to be weak then it only brings ourselves down as well.

1 Corinthians 13:13

Three things will last forever – FAITH, HOPE and LOVE – and the greatest of these is LOVE.

ugh, I could read this verse a million times and still love it.  Paul tells the church that eventually everything will fade away, everything will be gone, but the 3 things that will never leave are faith, hope and love.

1 Corinthians 14:34

Women should be silent during the church meeting.  It is not proper for them to speak.  They should be submissive, just as the law says.

another thing I love are controversial verses. lol.  I was upset reading this verse like ‘what Jesus?! I can’t talk at church?’ So I read up on it in my study bible to see what was going on here for Paul to say this. my study bible says this:

Does this mean women should not speak in church services today?  It is clear from 11:5 [But a woman dishonors her head if she prays or prophesies without covering on her head, for this is the same as shaving her head] women prayed and prophesied in public worship.  It is also clear in chapters 12-14 that women are given spiritual gifts and are encouraged to exercise them in the body of Christ.  Women have much to contribute and can participate in worship services.  In the Corinthian culture, women were not allowed to confront men in public.  Apparently some of the women who had become Christians thought that their Christian freedom gave them the right to question the men in public worship. This was causing division in the church.  In addition, women of that day did not receive formal religious education as did the men.  Women may have been raising questions in the worship services that could have been answered at home without disruption of the services.  Paul was asking the women not to flaunt their Christian freedom during worship.  The purpose of Paul’s words was to promote unity, not to teach about women’s roles in the church.

[page 1944, Tyndale Life application Study Bible, New Living Translation]

1 Corinthians 15:10

But whatever I am now, it is all because God poured out His special favor on me – and not without results.  For I have worked harder than any of the other apostles; yet it was not I but God who was working through me by His grace.

He is telling the church how is did not deserve to know Jesus while he was alive, but that Jesus still chose him even though he was not a ‘good’ person.  I love this verse because he is so humbled and so thankful for what God did for him and not only that, but it shows that ANYONE can come to know Jesus at any part of their lives and that God loves them!!

have a great weekend!

love,

tlainey

Prime has got me like…

listen.  Amazon Prime is killing me.  I just got it a month ago and like, all of my money goes to this.  They know what they are doing that one is FOR SURE.  I only bring this up because I was grocery shopping and of course I think about all the non-food items that I need and what do I do now? GO TO AMAZON. lol

onto the good stuff though.

This weeks meal plan!

Breakfasts:

again, the hubs is on days and I haven’t exactly been staying up with making him breakfasts so this week that changes

Eggs Benedict 

Eggs Benedict Bake by Better Homes & Garden

This is a big bake and I can make multiple at a time.  I’m hoping this will work though because the eggs seem like a lot of work.. ugh. I hope so because I love me so Eggs Benedict

Blueberry Croissant Puff

Blueberry Croissant Puff by The Girl Who Ate Everything

I made this 2 weeks ago and it sets perfectly.  He was able to eat it all week and it is SO simple!  I making it with raspberries and blackberries. 🙂

Dinners:

Best Hot Dog EVER

Best Hot Dog You Will Ever Eat by the Food Charlatan

I have not tried this yet, but It has a lot of ingredients that I love so much! and look at this picture!! It looks SO GOOD!

Easy 20-Minute Garlic and Herb Baked Cod

Easy 20-Minute Garlic and Herb Baked Cod by Lauren Slatest

This recipe is so easy and seriously makes the yummiest fish ever.  Now that summer is coming upon us I have been craving light summery foods and I think this is a great addition to summer meals!

Buffalo Chicken Quesadillas 

Buffalo Chicken Quesadillas by Gimme Delicious

This recipe has become a staple in our home.  they are fast, delicious and everyone will eat them!  Try these!!

Seasoned Baked Chicken Nuggets

Baked Chicken Nuggets by Alice Currah on PBS Kids

another thing we make all the time.. I usually have friend chicken nuggets, but we are going baked this week!  ps I always marinade my nuggets in pickle juice!! It makes a big difference!

Guacamole Chicken Burgers

Guacamole Chicken Burgers by Yummy Healthy Easy

I have made chicken burgers one time and they came out pretty good so I decided to try a different recipe and this sound DELICIOUS. Ill make both the hamburger buns and the hot dog buns with this recipe below (click on the picture)!  This recipe is so tasty and so easy!

Homemade Buns by Nourishing Joy

Side Dishes:

Jalapeño Popper Dip

Jalapeño Popper Dip by The Country Cook

So this dip really tastes just like Jalapeño Poppers and it is seriously SO good, even warmed up days after.  A must if you have friends over and again, not hard to make at all.

Desserts:

Oatmeal Cookie S’Mores Gooey Bars

Oatmeal Cookie S’mores Gooey Bars by Chelsea’s Messy Apron

this has been on my ‘to cook’ list for a long time.. doesn’t it look so FREAKING yummy? It does to me and now that it is getting to summery weather I can’t see why I should hold off any longer! Hope you all love these! I know I will!!

love,

tlainey

Summer days around the corner…

little known fact: I haven’t been making time for blogging

I love blogging.  Having bits of my life out there in the world to look back on one day intrigues me.  I want my kids to be on the internet one day and read about day when they were little.  That just makes me happy knowing that could happen one day.  On the other hand, daily life takes a toll on me.  between taking care of 3 little bits, maintaining a house, preparing, shopping for and cooking meals, doing bills and then every little event that happens throughout the week; I just don’t have time always to sit down for a half an hour to hour to write. SO, I will probably always post here, but I will probably not always be consistent.

so happy reading when it’s written!

highlight of the week:

My oldest came home from school a couple days ago with a WORM in her backpack!! Her and her friend had found one on the playground and pulled it in half (because she learned earthworms can be cut in half and grow their bodies back).  Somehow she got it into her backpack with no one noticing and then made it home with it.  She tried to sneak it outside, but I caught it.  Now her half of a worm is living in her flower pot outside.

the great adventures we have.

Family, Forgiveness and Small Groups

the past couple weeks have been overwhelming.

Getting used to balancing a baby, a toddler, a whole house and meals on top of school, homework, church, small groups and visits it has just become a juggling act!

First, My in-laws visited! My sis-in-law and her husband and my mother-in-law.  It was my sis and bro inlaws first time seeing baby boy and it ended up being such a fun visit.  We cooked and stayed up talking and went to the movies and just had ourselves a blast the whole time. I love when my day to day is interrupted with visits from people I love.  It makes the day just so much more colorful!  On the other hand it means cleaning like a mad man for the week before they come, sleeping the day they leave and then re-cleaning for a week after they leave!  I’m not good at this!! When things pile up I get SO overwhelmed and ignore it until I have no more plates left!   BUT I have been actually trying.. which means I have been doing my dishes. lol.

What I also started was a weekly list! Monday through fridays.. Just to keep me going with motiations and goals. I have gotten more done in the past 3 weeks than I have in months and it was all about not doing too much every day. This is how a typical day list looks

  • Dishes
  • Clean kitchen
  • Pick up and sweep living room
  • Do & fold one load of laundry
  • Meals (b,l,d)
  • Tackle ONE ROOM. (So one day my bedroom, next day the girls, so on and so forth)

On mondays i usually make a ‘pick up day’ where i just collect dirty clothes, sweep and pick up things so the rest of my week could be that much easier.

I also joined a small group! We are reading the book

Power of a praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

check it out! It really makes you look at your husband in a different light and pray for him in specific areas where he will really need the prayers instead of just generally praying form him.   I seriously have just been loving it and I’m doing it with really great people that I think will be life long friends! 

 and forgiveness.. my last subject

this topic has just been popping up in my life for the past couple weeks and I thought I should write about it.

for the longest time forgiveness to me was a one time deal.  When I forgave someone it was done and that was it, but these past couple weeks i’m realizing as a human being that is just not how it works.  Forgiveness is a day to day struggle.   There are people in my life that I thought I had forgiven a long time ago, but still harbored bad feelings and I would get so mad every tome they showed up in my tomeline or someone mentioned it, but i have been trying to let some of those things go. Im not perfect and i have to talk to God a lot about some people, but now every time those certain people come up in my life i pray for that forgivness to released and i look at something good about them because you cant be mad at someone that you can see a nice quality in!! It doesnt mean you have to be ok with what they did to you in the past, but it dows mean you are leaving it to Jesus and the past so you (I mean I) can move on!

Now that im catching up on things maybe just maybe i can blog more. 🙂

Love,

tlainey

the instagram mom

we all do it.

post only pictures of our house when it’s immaculately clean.

put the right shades on it, use the professional camera, open up the windows.

is this real life? maybe for some. The perfectly crafted kids bedroom with everything matching and all is white and grey.

for me? nope.

I can’t even imagine what it would be like if my house was completely clean.  Where I got to a day where not one thing in my house did not need to be swept or scrubbed.  We still have tubs downstairs to go through from a year and half ago or lets say 8 years ago when we started packing everything in tubs. I would love it if we were all a little bit more real with each other.  We showed the dirty dishes and the pile of clothes behind closed doors.  I know I would feel so much better about myself knowing there was someone else out there with a dirty house.

I don’t want to be an instagram mom.  I just want to be mom.

what about you?

sick kids, barbies and baymax

this week has been a little ridiculous. There I let it out and now I can move on.

the bump on the back of my neck (which I talked about in a previous post) is almost completely gone!! It did end up being a lymph node and it swelled up because I had a pretty bad virus going on inside me.  Thankfully I beat it up with my immune system and the lymph node is going down like it should be.

On the other side my middle baby is sick!  she has had a fever on and off for a few days which is weird because she had a fever Monday, nothing tuesday and wednesday a fever again.  She not has a sore throat and boogies and all the fun stuff that come along with this sick season so we missed church wednesday, we missed a date night tuesday and then I got sick AGAIN yesterday.. fun fun. Hubs got me some Dayquil and i am feeling better with that in my system, but I’m really ready for Wisconsin to start melting a bit so we can stop throwing sickness all over.

Because we missed out date night we bought Big Hero 6 and Barbie in Princess Power on Vudu.  Best idea ever! We had my brother and his girlfriend over and I made a chicken cordon bleu bake and it was so fun getting to watch kids movies and stay up a little late on a week night.

Today is cleaning day… which I have been neglecting because I haven’t felt good…. someone want to come do my dishes?! lol.. so you see, i’m posting because this is much more fun than doing dishes.  Here’s watch on the Menu this week:

Slow Cooker Cream Cheese Chicken Taquitos

by Creme De La Crumb
by Creme De La Crumb

I have made these before of course and they are super easy and extremely flavorful. They cook all day and make your house smell super yummy 🙂 I have the link in the pic and the title!! try it out! I get a lot of yummo recipes from Creme De La Crumb. Great Site!!

*ps baby break just happened.. he woke up, things got super cute.. it had to happen*

Cauliflower Crust Pizza

by Tasty Kitchen
by Tasty Kitchen

We are trying to do our best to move away from Carbs.   I don’t want to completely erase it form our diet because I feel like when you say you are taking something away it just makes your brain want it more… so I’m trying to make more less-carb meals, if I can. I made a cauliflower crust with my mom once, but we did have this recipe and it fell apart so easily.. this one looks like it will stay to get much easier and so i’m going to make personal pizzas for the fam this week using this recipe.  Wish me luck!!

Shrimp and Avocado Salad

by Pinch of Yum
by Pinch of Yum

Because everyone needs a good salad and this one looks exciting and fresh and summery which is what I need since all I see is 4 feet of snow in my front yard.

Grilled Fish Sandwiches

by Apples and Sparkle
by Apples and Sparkle

Again, I want light and summery.. Do you see the pattern here? I want summer.

Skinny Chicken Fettuccine

by Diethood
by Diethood

This is made with Kefir which my husband loooovvveeeessss so i’m sure he’ll like this too.  I’m also substituting the noodles with spaghetti squash. baha.. we will see about this recipe.. this will be a very experimental one, but I love Fettuccine Alfredo so I hope this recipe really works out!!

I have a special group I am a part of and I want to make something for it each week and update you all on it!! Look for that coming next week, but for now enjoy some food!!

tlainey

When they tell you that they love you.

Being in love is such an amazing experience.  From the beginning when there are butterflies to the all out lust, then you see commitment and the butterflies become a deep resounding feel of knowing… that love is so beautiful, especially when it works.. you’re able to feel ugly and cry deeply. You can snort and fart and trip and you know that they see the person you inside your sole.

Then kids come along.  That look that they give you when they are babies where you feel like they are looking inside of you and knowing you %100. Then they get older and they grab for you like you are their life line.. which you are their life line as a parent.  Then they get to the age where they can talk and they tell you they love you.  It’s an astonishing thing at first because you think how could they know this love I have in my heart for them and reciprocate it? They do though. My oldest is 6 and even now when she looks at me with those bright blue eyes and tells me she loves me I know she feels that same feeling deep down that God made us with.. that real love.  I’m so thankful to feel God’s love, through Him, through my husband and through my children… i’m one SUPER blessed woman.

Children are a heritage from the Lord,
    offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
    are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
    whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
    when they contend with their opponents in court.

Psalm 127:3-5  NIV

– tlainey

book nerd alert!

I need to use caps.

on that note.

I wanted to share with everyone my Goodreads account!! 😀

I read so much.  I used to work in a high school library and i’m telling you, YA books are the best books in the whole wide world. Just sayin’

My Goodreads Pages

I’m currently reading 3 books.  How you say? Seriously, I don’t know, but I read multiple books at the same time.  The 3 books i’m reading are:

Afterworlds by Scott Westerfeld

This is a different book than the other 2 series he wrote that I know of.  The Uglies series was a distopian sci-fi which was so good and I even read the prequel which I normally don’t do because I love the people in the stories too much, but he kept me reading and i’m so glad I read all of the series. Then the Leviathan series was a steampunk base on a historical event and the book includes pictures so you get to visualize these creations he comes up with so well!  so i’m excited to see what this book will be like! I just picked it up this weekend so I will probably be starting on it tonight!

The Dead and Gone by Susan Beth Pfeffer

It is the 2nd book in the Last Survivors series and I have had this on my to read list for over a year and I just kept putting it off, but once I read the first book I knew I would continue reading this series. It’s kind of a dark post-apocoliptic sci-fi that deals with a lot of death and natural disasters so if you have anxiety about the world we live in today, it might be a hard story to read.  If your into books like this though it is great! She really puts you in the surrounding so you really feel you are living in the world she has created and it feels so realistic. i’m about 1/3 of the way into the second one and its just as good as the first and is in a different setting than the 1st book!

Ensnared by A.G. Howard

I’m on the 3rd book of the Splintered Series and this so far has been a very fun series for me.  It’s based on Alice and Wonderland and it is the story of her descendants.  I think the author did a great job of incorporating the series into Wonderland’s world.  I feel like I get to really dig into her story.  It’s dark and twisted like wonderland, but so whimsical! I’m about a a third into this book and i’m caught back into the world once again.

weekend at moms

 I will show you and teach you in the way you should go. I will tell you what to do with My eye upon you.

Psalm 32:8 NLT

sorry I haven’t posted!

We went out to mom’s from friday morning to yesterday late last night.  My parents have company and they went on a vacation for vday so i took over.  It is a daunting job and adding 3 little kids to the mix makes it nearly impossible, but we made it through lol.

Hubs and I got to go out for a few hours on vday and it was wonderful.  We went out to eat (Olive Garden), Target, Gander Mountain & Barnes&Noble.  Those are all stores we don’t have in our little town so every day trips to those places for most people end up being special trips to us. In the end it was wonderful getting away for a few hours with just the 2 of us.

While we were at mom’s for the weekend we got an email from our oldest’s school.  She has a hard time focusing which is something we have been working with ever since she started school.  We see it at home, but since she gets way more one-on-one at home it doesn’t affect her in the same way.  She’s very social and throwing no focus into that, it just gets overwhelming so we have tried doing more at home to help her.  Does anyone else out there have a little one that can’t focus well?  Do you have any suggestions to help with reading and comprehension? She’s in the first grade and we are doing a charter school to help.  She is able to be up and around and be her creative little self, but she just has a tough time with that reading.  It’s already a hard thing to get down. ugh, expectations on little ones gets to me too… there are just too many.

other than all that!!!

We are finally home and i’m exhausted, but i’m happy to back here.  Going to different places is always fun, but home is home.

– tlainey