Sick for LYFE

… as cool as the 90’s were they had nothing on this week. With in only 7 days we had 1 ear infection, 2 pink eyes (2 different kids that is), 3 people with lice and 2 headcolds… this was one only a weeks span. 

I have been pretty angry this week. I know that I am doing God’s will. Our lives have been changing immencly. Hubs has joined a mens group that goes DEEP and i have been doing a small group that goes DEEP. In the midst of that i started a new job at my church, aaron started doing sound, we have been getting our finances in order so we can be better prepared for our future and i think because of that someone is not happy about it. 

My pastor’s wife gave the staff a verse to dwell on this week because illness and financial burdens have been ‘plauging’ all of the staff these past few weeks:

“James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes scattered among the nations: Greetings. Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”

‭‭James‬ ‭1:1-6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

While my anger has come and gone this week, i keep coming back to this verse. Joy. I find joy in that this is a season. I find joy that my kids and my husband and I are ok. I find joy in the fact and we are on the correct path, the tough, sicko, financially draining, but so worth it path. 
I hope that if any of you are struggling this week with anger, hopelessness and/or depression that you find this passage encouraging. 


The Humble Brag

1 Peter 5:6

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor.

being humble is pretty hard.. with instagram, facebook and so many other social media outlets we can constantly show everyone how great you are.

BUT then I think of the mighty power of God. that power that created the earth, that formed a human being inside me, that made the perfect clouds and the scent of roses.

I live in a place where poor means you have a cell phone, internet, a roof over your head and food to eat, but you dont have the newest vehicle and you cant get the best smart tv.  I have nothing to worry about, my children are taken care of, my husband and I have good jobs, and while it feels tight in our finances at times, we can afford to live in our rich culture.  I am humbled by that. I am humbled by the fact that Jesus chose me to live in 2017 in america. I am humbled that i’m not pulling salt out of the bottom of a lake for $10 a day, or that i dont have think about what my children and I are going to eat or where we will sleep at night. I’m humbled that I grew up in a christian family where they taught me how to love people.  I’m humbled that I am loved, that I am given what I dont deserve, that I live a life that some dream of having.


I have been complaining a lot… about my finances, about my husband working too much and me being too busy, that my kids have been too stir crazy in the cold, that im not losing weight and i’m so tired all the time.  Jesus remind me of your MIGHTY POWER. remind me that in my weakness you are strong.  That you provide for my family, keep us healthy and so many other amazing things. I’m sorry for forgetting your goodness. You are amazing.


and now a challenge. someone told me they try to walk into a place and see something new every day. walk into a room and see something something new. a new face, a new decoration something new.  And pray for someone.

pray for anyone. just pray for someone other than yourself.




“Submit to God, and you will have peace;  then things will go well for you.”

Job 22:21


It’s funny that this verse is used at all as an example of submission. Eliphaz was talking to Job and accusing him of all of these sinful things he MUST have done to deserve all the hardship that Job encountered when the opposite was true. Job was a righteous man. God says he was. Job didn’t deserve what happened to him, but it still happened.  While submitting to God will bring us peace and things might go well for us it will not always be true. Submitting to God does not automatically mean we will have all of these wonderful things happen to us it just means we are being obedient without the expectation of reward.

it’s a lot like a mom. I don’t do the dishes, laundry and multitude of chores that pile up every day for a reward… i do them because they need to be done. i do them out of obedience to my household. God loves me when i’m lazy and I don’t do house work and he loves me when i’m motivated and do do housework. Good things happen in my house when it’s clean, but bad things happen in my house when it’s clean too…

It never quiet explained the ‘moral to the story’ in Job but so many lessons about doubt, honor, obedience, strength, submission and lesson upon lesson can be learned in Job.


I hope you all have a great week.


My word of the year


2016 was crazy. We did a lot. not only did we do a lot but it was a year with more changes.. there are always changes!! I guess by now I would be used to them, but i’m not and it throws me off and I feel like 2016 turned into the year of no time for God.

no time for God.

that breaks my heart. My heart is for Jesus, He is my number one, my life, my strength.. but something happened this year and it’s like I just had no motivation any more.

I want motivation back. I want conviction, yearning, hunger.. i want those back.

I realized I can’t make those come back. I can’t force motivation, hunger, conviction.. those are all natural tendencies and if those are going to come back I have to submit.

I have to submit to God, to a relationship with Him, submit to what He is telling me, to where He wants me to go and what He wants me to do.


I don’t know how to do this. I’m the most controlling person I know. I continually fail at submitting to my husband, myself, my kids.. I am a mess at submitting, but thats what makes it beautiful I guess… to not know… because that’s what submitting is.. letting go.

Googled “Definition of Submit”:

  1. accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person.
     – give in/way, yield, back down, cave in, capitulate;  surrender, knuckle under

                         “she submitted under duress”
     – be governed by, abide by, be regulated by, comply with, accept, adhere to, be subject to, agree to, consent to, conform to
                         “he refused to submit to their authority”

so i’m starting with bible studying.. here I go.

Psalms 2:9-11:

You will break them with an iron rod
and smash them like clay pots.’”
Now then, you kings, act wisely!
Be warned, you rulers of the earth!
Serve the Lord with reverent fear,
and rejoice with trembling.

some translations say  in verse 9 “dash them in pieces like a potter’s vessel.” usually when the potter is referenced in the bible it’s talking about ‘the maker’ or God.  I see this particular verse and while it looks like God is just going to destroy all the nations I just looks to me like he’s going to break them, as in break their hearts, and put them together in His image.

Verse 10 & 11 are a little more straight forward, God wants the kings/rulers/leaders of the nations to turn to Him, respect Him, fear Him.. I mean could you imagine the world submitting to God. what a beautiful world.

I thought this was a pretty fitting passage for the new year (which was randomly just at the top of 56 verses about submitting).  One, it teaches me that one way to submit is to respect God and know that He is in charge of this world no matter what leaders are. Two, because of our new president. Our country is so divided.. understandably. there are 2 much different views in this country right now. But I have hope and I pray desperately that our new ruler of our country reads this verse and serves the Lord with reverent fear and rejoices with trembling. in the mean time I’m going to try to do that too.

excuse my misspellings and horrible horrible grammar, but it’s my thing and my blog.

love tlainey

Long time, no write

I do this. I write and write and then it gets old and I let it go.

God has a funny way of working. Life can feel so free one day and the next feel just a restricting. There are weeks where I feel so together, keeping up with chores and work and all that goes along and enough money is coming in and no new bills come up and it just feels awesome! You start thinking about house improvements and future fun events to take the family then it comes crashing the next day. multi thousand dollar bills that were completely unexpected (thanks a lot health insurance) the house is trashed and I can’t keep up, it’s hot one day and cold the next so you never know what you are able to do with the kids, opportunities end, dreams change… you start panicking and thinking about all the money cuts you need to start taking and house improvements you have to push off to another year and on and on and on.

Why does this happen?  How can you feel so secure one day and insecure the next? Well, I guess one reason is you just can’t predict the future. Aaron got a tumor under is ear (seriously.. they have to call it a tumor! I hate it!) and it’s non-life threatening, but he still has to have surgery and ct scans and a specialist bla bla bla and our insurance of course doesn’t cover anything until we have paid out of pocket $5,000 (I mean seriously?! what middle class income can afford 5,000 in medical bills a year?aldkjfa;efwo). I knew the bills would be coming, but as a financial prude it still made me cry and scream and yell when I got the first bill.

the other reason I feel this way? I forget to trust God. Have we ever went without? starved or without a house or naked? no. As a matter of fact we just went on the most amazing vacation with my husband’s family. we visited states we have never been to before and had experiences we have never got to experience before.. It was beautiful and fun and I’m so thankful. Not only that  but we were given a money gift when we got home.. FREE MONEY. no joke!

We are taken care of, we are loved, provided for, thought of, and so much more, yet I still have my moment of panic. yes, those medical bills will get higher, but will God take care of us? yes. Will it feel like I want to throw up every time I see a bill? yes.


BUT, does God take care of us?

yes. always and forever.


(got the feels out)



Matthew 6:26 -34

“26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? 28 “And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, 29 yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. 30 And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith? 31 “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. 34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”

There are a few lessons to be learned in this passage.  ONE. He will always provide.  He gives the birds food, He turns caterpillars in the butterflies, I mean the birds fly from the North to the South for the winter! They don’t have to be in the AP classes to do all of those things.. they just DO them, because God commanded them to.  NOW, even though we should always be striving for the best, it doesn’t mean God loves us less because we are not the top dog.  I just think He is trying to say that He will meet all of your needs, no matter what. So when things are not going your way, or the best is just out of reach, talk to Him, He will provide what He knows you need in His timing.

TWO. DONT WORRY.  Knowing He will provide for us means we can’t worry about what is to come because we can’t predict or manipulate the future to do what we want it to do, which means we have to trust that God knows what He is doing (which he does, btw).  

THREE.  Don’t dwell on what you look like on the outside. This is so hard. We want to look pretty/handsome.  We dont want to be embarrassed, made fun of or feel like we are not part of the crowd.  The bigger picture is though, when you are a christian, you are already not part of the crowd. God wants us to be working on what we look like on the inside, and when we do that it radiates on the outside.

How does God provide for you?

What are ways God has taken control of your life when you were worried He might not?

What’s one way you can work on your inside and a way you can let go of working on your outside?

Prime has got me like…

listen.  Amazon Prime is killing me.  I just got it a month ago and like, all of my money goes to this.  They know what they are doing that one is FOR SURE.  I only bring this up because I was grocery shopping and of course I think about all the non-food items that I need and what do I do now? GO TO AMAZON. lol

onto the good stuff though.

This weeks meal plan!


again, the hubs is on days and I haven’t exactly been staying up with making him breakfasts so this week that changes

Eggs Benedict 

Eggs Benedict Bake by Better Homes & Garden

This is a big bake and I can make multiple at a time.  I’m hoping this will work though because the eggs seem like a lot of work.. ugh. I hope so because I love me so Eggs Benedict

Blueberry Croissant Puff

Blueberry Croissant Puff by The Girl Who Ate Everything

I made this 2 weeks ago and it sets perfectly.  He was able to eat it all week and it is SO simple!  I making it with raspberries and blackberries. 🙂


Best Hot Dog EVER

Best Hot Dog You Will Ever Eat by the Food Charlatan

I have not tried this yet, but It has a lot of ingredients that I love so much! and look at this picture!! It looks SO GOOD!

Easy 20-Minute Garlic and Herb Baked Cod

Easy 20-Minute Garlic and Herb Baked Cod by Lauren Slatest

This recipe is so easy and seriously makes the yummiest fish ever.  Now that summer is coming upon us I have been craving light summery foods and I think this is a great addition to summer meals!

Buffalo Chicken Quesadillas 

Buffalo Chicken Quesadillas by Gimme Delicious

This recipe has become a staple in our home.  they are fast, delicious and everyone will eat them!  Try these!!

Seasoned Baked Chicken Nuggets

Baked Chicken Nuggets by Alice Currah on PBS Kids

another thing we make all the time.. I usually have friend chicken nuggets, but we are going baked this week!  ps I always marinade my nuggets in pickle juice!! It makes a big difference!

Guacamole Chicken Burgers

Guacamole Chicken Burgers by Yummy Healthy Easy

I have made chicken burgers one time and they came out pretty good so I decided to try a different recipe and this sound DELICIOUS. Ill make both the hamburger buns and the hot dog buns with this recipe below (click on the picture)!  This recipe is so tasty and so easy!

Homemade Buns by Nourishing Joy

Side Dishes:

Jalapeño Popper Dip

Jalapeño Popper Dip by The Country Cook

So this dip really tastes just like Jalapeño Poppers and it is seriously SO good, even warmed up days after.  A must if you have friends over and again, not hard to make at all.


Oatmeal Cookie S’Mores Gooey Bars

Oatmeal Cookie S’mores Gooey Bars by Chelsea’s Messy Apron

this has been on my ‘to cook’ list for a long time.. doesn’t it look so FREAKING yummy? It does to me and now that it is getting to summery weather I can’t see why I should hold off any longer! Hope you all love these! I know I will!!



Summer days around the corner…

little known fact: I haven’t been making time for blogging

I love blogging.  Having bits of my life out there in the world to look back on one day intrigues me.  I want my kids to be on the internet one day and read about day when they were little.  That just makes me happy knowing that could happen one day.  On the other hand, daily life takes a toll on me.  between taking care of 3 little bits, maintaining a house, preparing, shopping for and cooking meals, doing bills and then every little event that happens throughout the week; I just don’t have time always to sit down for a half an hour to hour to write. SO, I will probably always post here, but I will probably not always be consistent.

so happy reading when it’s written!

highlight of the week:

My oldest came home from school a couple days ago with a WORM in her backpack!! Her and her friend had found one on the playground and pulled it in half (because she learned earthworms can be cut in half and grow their bodies back).  Somehow she got it into her backpack with no one noticing and then made it home with it.  She tried to sneak it outside, but I caught it.  Now her half of a worm is living in her flower pot outside.

the great adventures we have.

Family, Forgiveness and Small Groups

the past couple weeks have been overwhelming.

Getting used to balancing a baby, a toddler, a whole house and meals on top of school, homework, church, small groups and visits it has just become a juggling act!

First, My in-laws visited! My sis-in-law and her husband and my mother-in-law.  It was my sis and bro inlaws first time seeing baby boy and it ended up being such a fun visit.  We cooked and stayed up talking and went to the movies and just had ourselves a blast the whole time. I love when my day to day is interrupted with visits from people I love.  It makes the day just so much more colorful!  On the other hand it means cleaning like a mad man for the week before they come, sleeping the day they leave and then re-cleaning for a week after they leave!  I’m not good at this!! When things pile up I get SO overwhelmed and ignore it until I have no more plates left!   BUT I have been actually trying.. which means I have been doing my dishes. lol.

What I also started was a weekly list! Monday through fridays.. Just to keep me going with motiations and goals. I have gotten more done in the past 3 weeks than I have in months and it was all about not doing too much every day. This is how a typical day list looks

  • Dishes
  • Clean kitchen
  • Pick up and sweep living room
  • Do & fold one load of laundry
  • Meals (b,l,d)
  • Tackle ONE ROOM. (So one day my bedroom, next day the girls, so on and so forth)

On mondays i usually make a ‘pick up day’ where i just collect dirty clothes, sweep and pick up things so the rest of my week could be that much easier.

I also joined a small group! We are reading the book

Power of a praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

check it out! It really makes you look at your husband in a different light and pray for him in specific areas where he will really need the prayers instead of just generally praying form him.   I seriously have just been loving it and I’m doing it with really great people that I think will be life long friends! 

 and forgiveness.. my last subject

this topic has just been popping up in my life for the past couple weeks and I thought I should write about it.

for the longest time forgiveness to me was a one time deal.  When I forgave someone it was done and that was it, but these past couple weeks i’m realizing as a human being that is just not how it works.  Forgiveness is a day to day struggle.   There are people in my life that I thought I had forgiven a long time ago, but still harbored bad feelings and I would get so mad every tome they showed up in my tomeline or someone mentioned it, but i have been trying to let some of those things go. Im not perfect and i have to talk to God a lot about some people, but now every time those certain people come up in my life i pray for that forgivness to released and i look at something good about them because you cant be mad at someone that you can see a nice quality in!! It doesnt mean you have to be ok with what they did to you in the past, but it dows mean you are leaving it to Jesus and the past so you (I mean I) can move on!

Now that im catching up on things maybe just maybe i can blog more. 🙂